Sep 16, 2012

[Technicolor Musings] The Gay Name Game

by rauchdickson via Flickr
Being back in the gay dating scene, one can't help but deal with all the different categories, labels and terms we have in place in an effort to help one find what one is looking for in a prospect, romantic or otherwise. You know what I mean - the varying questions that try to help gay guys figure out what your "scene" is or to quicly determine basic sexual compatibility in the shortest possible amount of time.

Preferences in the bedroom include being top, bottom or versatile. If we go by body types you can be a twink, a bear, a chub, an otter or a wolf. Maybe you're effem, trans, butch or discreet? Are just curious, a chaser or looking for NSA fun? The list goes on and on and on.

And don't get me started on the whole sub-genre of "labels don't work for me".

I have to admit, it does help at times when you're just browsing through various social media profiles and when working with various gay dating site algorithms. I'm definitely a chub, but not hairy enough to be a bear. I can possibly pass as a cub and I'm pretty butch except when it comes to Broadway musicals and maybe Kylie Minogue.

What do you think? Where do you stand? Or do you try to stay outside of the system as much as you can?